Coping with a new born and toddler

Coping with a new born and toddler

When you have one child already and a new baby joins your family, it can feel like a real juggling act to find your new normal.  You might feel a bit out of balance initially as you work out how to manage your newborn's needs and you toddler's busy schedule.


  • Don't expect too much from yourself. There's no such thing as a "perfect" parent.
  • Toddlers love helping and will be able to bring you nappies, wipes, and baby's cuddly.
  • While feeding your baby, entertain your toddler with stories about when they were a baby, play "I spy", or look through picture books.
  • Set small goals for yourself. Do only what is necessary for you and your family.
  • Talk to others about how you feel and how they can help. It's okay to think about yourself every now and again.
  • See the time with your little one as your priority and enjoy cuddling and playing. It's the most important thing you can do. It's also fine to find a reason to get out of the house each day.
  • Grab a rest when you can during the day while your child is sleeping. Turn your phone off when you're resting.
  • Take time to look after yourself: Make time to do something you enjoy when you can. Go for a walk, play a game, read, or watch TV.

And when the the lockdown is over

  • Arrange for a trusted friend or relative to care for your child for a while so you can have a sleep.
  • Talk to visitors about the best time to visit and how they can help. Let them make their own cup of tea (and make you one too!).

If things don't improve and you are finding life difficult, talk to your midwife, Plunket nurse, GP, or ring PLUNKETLINE on 0800 933 922